When love becomes dangerous!!

Dr Nandipha  Magudumana (Left)
Thabo Bester (Right) source facebook

Falling in love can be a beautiful and life-changing experience. It’s a feeling that can take your breath away and leave you feeling like you’re on top of the world.

 But what if falling in love could also be a danger to you?

 Thousands and thousands of groups on social media …people trying to console and give each other tips on how to stay in love…how to please their partners.

 Long queues kwa Madzibaba Reginault🤣🤣…women bathing with stones left right and centre just to find love.

 The recent arrest of Thabo Bester and Dr. Nandipha in Tanzania is a stark reminder of the potential risks that people face when they become involved with criminals. Bester and Dr. Nandipha were a power couple who lived in an upmarket mansion in Hyde Park, Johannesburg.

 They had everything: money, status, and each other. But behind closed doors, their relationship was not what it seemed. Bester was allegedly physically and emotionally abusive towards Dr. Nandipha, and daily she reportedly feared for her life.

 Their story Is not unique. Many women around the world fall in love with men who turn out to be dangerous. In some cases, these men are serial abusers who move from one relationship to the next, leaving a trail of broken hearts and broken bones behind them.

 In other cases, women fall in love with men who seem perfect on the surface but who are hiding a dark and dangerous side. The danger of falling In love is that it can blind us to the red flags that would otherwise warn us of potential danger. We become so enamoured with our partner that we ignore warning signs like possessiveness, jealousy, and controlling behaviour.

 We convince ourselves that our partner loves us and would never hurt us, even when the evidence suggests otherwise.

 But falling in love doesn’t have to be dangerous. It’s possible to build healthy and loving relationships with partners who respect and cherish us. The key is to take things slow and to pay attention to our instincts. If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. It’s also important to seek help if we suspect that we’re in a dangerous relationship.

 I mean….no one is safe. 

Throughout history, many famous women have had their lives ruined because of their romantic relationships. These women had everything: fame, fortune, and success, but all of that was destroyed because of the men they fell in love with. 

One example is Marilyn Monroe, who was a Hollywood icon in the 1950s and 1960s. She was known for her beauty, talent, and charisma, but her relationships with men were often tumultuous. She was married three times, and all of her marriages ended in divorce.

Marilyn Monroe 

She also had affairs with several famous men, including President John F. Kennedy. Her romantic relationships were constantly in the public eye, and they took a toll on her mental health. She died tragically at the age of 36 from a drug overdose, and her legacy is often overshadowed by the scandals and rumours surrounding her personal life.

 Another example is Princess Diana, who was a beloved figure around the world. She was married to Prince Charles, but their relationship was fraught with problems from the beginning.

 Charles was in love with another woman, Camilla Parker-Bowles, and he continued to see her throughout his marriage to Diana. Diana struggled with depression and bulimia, and she became a media sensation because of her troubled marriage.

Princess Diana

 She divorced Charles in 1996, but she continued to be hounded by the media until her death In 1997. She died in a car accident while being chased by paparazzi, and her death was a devastating loss for her family, friends, and fans.

 Perhaps it’s time for women to consider going to love school. We spend years in school learning math, science, and language arts, but when it comes to love and relationships, we’re often left to figure it out on our own. 

Just the other day the internet was ablaze with videos on why we should bath with cinnamon to attract love🤣 

Before the week ended it was said we must bath with urine🤣🤣

 Then they said we must bath with Colgate🤣🤣🤣 What’s next comrades CYANIDE 🤣🤣!!

 Love school could offer women the opportunity to learn about healthy relationships, boundaries, communication, and consent. It could also provide a safe and supportive environment for women to explore their own desires and needs, without the pressure of societal expectations or gender norms. Love school would be a radical departure from the traditional dating and relationship advice that often reinforces harmful stereotypes and gender roles. By equipping women with the skills and knowledge they need to build fulfilling and satisfying relationships, love school could be a transformative experience that empowers women to take control of their own lives and happiness.

 What if the good doctor is under a spell? 

Some have speculated that Dr. Magudumana was under the influence of Bester, and even suggest that she may have been bewitched by him. The Idea of being bewitched or under someone’s spell is not new, and has been used to explain a variety of behaviours throughout history.

 However, it’s important to approach this explanation with scepticism and avoid perpetuating harmful stereotypes or beliefs about African spirituality. Instead, we should focus on the facts of the case and the evidence presented in court. Regardless of whether or not Dr. Magudumana was bewitched by Bester, it’s clear that their relationship was unhealthy and potentially dangerous.

 It’s important for women to be aware of the power dynamics in their relationships and to prioritize their own safety and well-being. By raising awareness of these issues and supporting women who may be in similar situations, we can work towards creating a society that is free from violence and coercion in relationships

 Let me know in the comment section below. What is the most dangerous thing you have done for love?