Beyond Likes and Status: Parental Communication as a Key to reducing suicide among Youths!!

Winnie Nkonde
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Winnie Nkonde (image by Michael Mpotaringa)


If you ask me, I believe it is a privilege to be alive in this era. We have witnessed the remarkable evolution of technology and the rise of women in leadership roles, breaking barriers in traditionally male-dominated areas.



 The younger generation, including girls, now know they can achieve great things. Additionally, we have seen former enemies among nations coming together in peace.



However, amidst all this positive progress in our societies, there is still one area that refuses to evolve: Parents.



 Just recently, social media was buzzing with the story of a man who tragically took his own life in Cape Town.



Unfortunately, suicide rates have been increasing across the continent, affecting people from different backgrounds, age groups, and races.



According to the Global Health Estimates, South Africa has the third-highest suicide rate out of all African countries.



This is alarming!



When such atrocities occur, major stories often revolve around issues like the "black tax," love, sex, money, and relationships.



 The rapid changes and standards brought about by our evolving world, coupled with the influence of social media, have made it challenging for my generation to find authenticity.



 Many individuals resort to portraying a false sense of success and happiness online.



Technology has brought us closer to a point where we can witness everyone’s daily successes, as much as we celebrate with them, it can evoke feelings of failure in others.



Consequently, countless people find themselves venturing into the depths of darkness, driven by the pursuit of money, which is often regarded as the root of all evil.



 However, amid all these struggles, who do young people turn to?



Seeking therapy is not yet widely accepted within the black community, as some may dismiss it as a waste of money.



 This leaves them with only one option: parents.



Unfortunately, many of them are also driven by the pursuit of money, constantly comparing their children to their peers who seemingly provide the most for their parents.



As a young African woman, based on my personal experiences, I find it difficult to discuss matters of love and relationships with my parents.



 It is considered taboo, and there seems to be an inherent gap that prevents me from opening up to them about issues that have the potential to greatly impact my emotional well-being.



‘A child as young as you can’t be stressed’ they say.

 Consequently, young people choose not to confide in them.



Some end up seeking guidance from church leaders, which might be a viable alternative. While it may work for some, the majority are confronted with narratives of waiting for their time and turn, which can leave them feeling mentally strained and twisted as they witness their peers advancing in life while they seemingly stagnate.



This leaves them with ‘friends’ as an option. It is indeed a blessing to have supportive friends who lend a listening ear.



However, social media has been inundated with stories of friends airing their friend’s grievances in public for the sake of likes and attention.



From my perspective, most young people lack someone they can truly confide in, someone who can offer them sound advice and listen to their concerns.



 Consequently, the number of suicides continues to rise, and young people resort to extreme measures like prostitution and gangsters just to gain status in society.



For women, the challenges are often exacerbated, as some may find themselves compelled to offer sexual favors to secure and maintain employment.



 Our African parents tend to measure success based on material possessions, but how can we blame them?



 Even at family gatherings and funerals, one's voice often carries little weight without financial means.



 It seems we are all living under the same pressure, as they attempt to prove to their peers, while sitting on their verandas with greying hair, how successful their children have become.



For us, the pressure is tripled as we strive to prove ourselves not only to our peers but also to our parents.



 At the end of the day, young people need parents who will communicate with them, listen to them, and understand them.



They need parents who will assure them that it's okay to pause, fail, and stumble.



 They need parents who will accept them unconditionally, bridging the gap that has been created by the constant reminder of ‘I took you to school’.



Conversations should not solely focus on the positive aspects of their lives; parents should also address their children’s fears, their worst nightmares, what they experience, and how the world makes them feel despite their efforts and failures.



If young people cannot find solace in their parents, where else can they turn to?



However, it's important to note that social media, to some extent, has inadvertently become a platform that advocates for suicide, with some individuals using it as an outlet to express their suicidal thoughts.



We have witnessed many tragic incidents, such as people consuming harmful substances or writing lengthy paragraphs about their exhaustion, and even live-streaming their suicides. As these ideas become imprinted in young minds, they start to believe that nobody truly understands their struggles and it is the only way.



As the world evolves, parenting skills should also evolve.





If parents eliminate communication barriers with their children and assure them that it is easier to communicate about anything they go through, while expressing love even in the worst-case scenarios, we would have taken the first step to reduce the suicide rate.



It is vital to emphasize that a struggling child is always better than a lost one.

The Daily Reflections with Winnie

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